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What is a healthy relationship?

Every relationship has its ups and downs.

Arguments and disagreements are all part of being in a relationship. But what are the signs that a relationship has become an abusive?

Everyone deserves to be respected in their relationship. Partners should feel able to speak openly about their thoughts and opinions and feel valued. Any decisions that are made in the relationship should be made fairly, equally and with the input of both people. There should be care, kindness and trust between each person involved and nobody should feel pressured into doing anything they don’t want to.

Some signs that a relationship has become abusive are:

• Communication becomes abusive and violent. Conversations become heated and turn to screaming, with threats and insults being used.
• If your partner disregards you thoughts, feeling or opinions – or even jeopardises your personal safety
• If your partner controls you with threats of violence or even their mood or behaviour
• If your partner tries to isolate you and won’t allow you to see your friends and family
• If you are reluctant to tell your partner how you feel about something, for fear of their reaction
• If your partner is cruel and is deliberately unkind to you
• If your partner is jealous of you spending time with other people and consistently checks up on you, asking where you are or when you are coming home
• If your partner forces you to have sex or sexual contact and your sexual relationship is dictated to you by them.
• If your partner uses threats of violence either prior to or during sex, or forces you to have sex with other people
• If your partner takes away or checks through your phone, or denies you access to transport
• If your partner consistently lies to you, or tries to blame you for their actions or violence

If you recognise some of these behaviours, it may be that you are in an abusive relationship and may want to consider ending it.

If you are fearful for your safety, contact police on 101 and report it to us. In the case of an emergency always dial 999.

If you do not want to contact the police, you can seek advice and support from IDAS or Supporting Victims in North Yorkshire – please don’t stay silent, reach out to stop the abuse.